Work with Me

catherine grey one-on-one session Most of the people I work with privately have done a lot to figure things out on their own.  And although they’ve learned a lot, they’d like some help with the next steps. Often it’s only small shifts that are needed.  As they say, “It only takes a small lever to swing a large door.”  These levers might include introducing daily habits that vastly improve relationships, brief mindfulness practices that can even be done whilst walking into work, or periods of reflection where we notice the way we’re talking to ourselves, and make adjustments if we need to. Clients may work with me session-by session.  Alternatively, many prefer a structured, time-limited  program such as Mindfulness-based Cognitive Therapy (MBCT).  MBCT helps to lessen stress and anxiety and improve wellbeing, but it’s best-known for reducing the risk (and severity and duration) of depression, especially with those with a tendency towards repeated episodes.  (Contact me for further information.) If you recognise some of the qualities below, we will probably work well together. You
  1. You have a rich inner life and ask the big questions.  A reflective person, you think and feel deeply about things such as meaning and purpose.
  2. Being authentic is very important to you.  Sometimes this causes you stress, because you want to fit in and be yourself at the same time.
  3. You’re a problem-solver.  You try not to put your problems onto others, and prefer to work things out on your own.  You sometimes rehash what you’ve said or done, and can beat yourself up afterwards.  Whilst your inner critic pulls you down, it plays such an important role in keeping you in line that you’re not sure you really want to lose it.  This also means that sometimes you find it hard to fall asleep because your mind just goes round in circles.
  4. You’re sensitive, kind, and dislike conflict.  You’re affected by others’s moods, and can take on their problems at times.  Sometimes (often?) you neglect your own needs, and sometimes you sabotage yourself by overeating, overdrinking, or finding ways to numb out the noise of the world.
  5. You’re love people but prefer being with individuals or small groups.  Relationships are very important to you and you love people, but you sometimes feel anxious or inadequate in groups, your family of origin, or on social media.  You prefer being with just one or two people at a time.
  6. You like time and space to yourself.  What others seem to find exciting can feel stressful or tiring to you.
  7. You’re a lifelong learner.  You love the growing that comes from new ideas.  And whether or not you want to learn meditation, you’d like to become more self-aware and deliberate about the choices you make.
Me Being a teacher at heart, I have a psycho-educational style of working – that is, I like to empower my clients so they can use the tools whenever they need to in the future, and share them with those they live and work with. I use mindfulness- and compassion-based approaches a lot in my work, love positive psychology*, and also use models that come from life coaching.  (*Positive psychology is not about saying affirmations you don’t believe, and is not about positive thinking.  It’s about acknowledging the value of negative emotions and also acknowledging what’s working well.) What I love most is to see people coming with stress, anxiety, self-criticism become more capable and confident in handling whatever comes their way with a calmness and focus they never knew was inside them. The Evidence for Mindfulness Mindfulness is not a cure-all for everything – neither is it everyone’s cup of tea.  Nevertheless, it’s a useful way to increase our self-awareness, and generally a good foundation upon which to build other skills.  Clinical studies have found that it’s associated with:
  • an enhanced appreciation of and enthusiasm for life
  • greater self-confidence and assertiveness
  • a greater capacity to cope with difficulty
  • a greater sense of relaxation and wellbeing
  • better personal relationships
  • improved quality of sleep
  • a more effective immune system.
Studies have also found that mindfulness brings:
  • a reduction in anxiety worry
  • a decrease in stress
  • lower levels of anger and tension
  • reduced symptoms associated with fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue and psoriasis.
Contact me for further information or to make a time to talk about what might be the best way forward for you.
If you’d like to see what it’s like to work with me without committing to a 1:1 session, you can always come along to a group event first.  Details of the next one can be found here.